Don’t Forget To Be Awesome

Yesterday, I got a call from a friend who wanted some “advice” on how to maintain his schedule, especially in regards to his workouts. He is committed to sleeping for 8 hours, and  working out in the morning. Often he wakes up tired and doesn’t want to work out, and rather than managing his schedule the night before to ensure he gets his 8 hours AND still gets up in the morning to work out he stays in bed.  Imagine how crazy making that must be!  He wanted to know how I manage to go and work out AND be so excited about it.

There’s no easy answer to this. Exercise sucks. For most of us. I don’t really know anyone who loves getting up when it’s cold and dark and raining or God forbid – snowing, to get out of a nice cozy warm bed, and go do what you said you would do. But here’s the thing. If you said you would do something, and then you don’t do it, something happens.

For the most part, I like to think of the world, and the people in it, as kind and generous. We may not always be that for ourselves, and sometimes, we may not even be that to each other, but that’s how I like to view the world. We make promises to each other, and we do what we can to keep them. And sometimes, we are unable to keep them and then we apologize which is never bad. But what about those promises that we make to ourselves?  What about those?  You know the ones.

I’ll work out starting tomorrow.

Tomorrow I’m not going to eat out.

Tomorrow, I”m going to join the gym.

Tomorrow night I’m going to make sure I get 8 hours of sleep.

Tomorrow, I’m going to respond to that email.

Tomorrow.

And then, tomorrow happens, and we stay up too late, and wake up tired, so we can’t go work out, and after work we’re too tired from all the food we ate that we shouldn’t have eaten, that we just want to go home and have a nap, so maybe, I’ll wait until tomorrow to join the gym.  One more day isn’t going to kill me.

But what if it does?  What if the words you say to yourself are equally as valuable as the words and promises you say to another?  Why is it easier for us to disappoint ourselves but we try and avoid that with others?

Why do your words not matter to you?

Something starts to happen inside when we stop honouring our own promises to ourselves. We start to doubt ourselves.  We start to relate to ourselves as someone who is unreliable. We start to convince others that we can’t be relied upon. People start to stop believing us when we promise something. We take on some kind of fitness challenge, and secretly, others are thinking in the back of their minds “Yah..sure.” We start to see ourselves in a lesser light.

We stop being awesome.

All because we said something and then we didn’t do it.

We start to tolerate it, more and more, until we stop making promises. Until we can’t bring ourselves to take on another challenge, because even we know we won’t do it.

When deep down, all we really want is to be awesome.

Our words are what make us awesome. Who we be in the world, is all based on our words. We speak it. We be it. We are awesome.

So please.  Don’t forget to be awesome.

It’s what makes the experience of life exceptional.

go be awesome

Rita

Hiding Out From Your Awesome

Some might say that it’s impossible to own your awesome 24/7. Likely Some would be right. However, let’s take a look at what it might take to make you awesome always. No matter what.

Last Sunday, I had a date. I’d been talking to this guy for over a week via email and text and on the phone. In theory, this was the guy.  Sunday morning, I woke up and I was paralyzed by fear and anxiety. What if he doesn’t like me? Ridiculous right? But true. Why is this significant?  Because if I were truly owning my awesome, it wouldn’t matter. As long as I went into the date being awesome, it wouldn’t matter if he liked me or not. I was still awesome.

It was such a revelation for me.  I got ready for the date, showed up for it completely being awesome, spent 3 hours with him, and it turns out he’s not the guy. But you know, I never doubted my awesome even for a minute.

So often we think we have to have it all together, we have to have it all figured out, we couldn’t possibly share what’s going on for us if it’s not all neatly tied up in a bow. So, we struggle, and suffer in silence and alone, when all we really need to do is pick up the phone and get it all out. Let me let you in on a little secret, and one I had to learn the hard way: We never have it all figured out.  We never have it all together.  And we especially don’t know how it’s all going to turn out. So just out yourself when you’re struggling through something. Life is not worth the suffering.

This date I was on last weekend, one of the things he said to me was “You can’t sell awesome!” very adamantly, and very righteously. He didn’t stop long enough for me to share with him the premise and context and mission of what I’m creating here, but he was simply convinced that you can’t sell awesome. The great thing is I am not trying to sell it.  My intention is to become a living, breathing example of what is possible in the whole world of awesome which then gives others the courage to be that as well.

Please don’t get me wrong. I am awesome, because I say so. And I don’t always say so. I have to remind myself, and consider it a practice just as often as not. It isn’t a natural state. But it’s a choice. I don’t often wake up happy, although after 7 hours solid sleep, sometimes I actually do, and then I choose. How do I want this day to go?  Do I look on the bright side of everything?  Or do I choose something else?

Last night, the story broke about Lance Armstrong being stripped of all of his Tour de France titles and banned for life from a sport that he brought to the surface. Why?  Because the USADA believes he was doping during his 9 different wins. After years of testing, there is no basis for the allegations, however, he’s done. He is stepping away from the “fight” because of the toll it’s taken on his family and himself. The man has changed the face of cancer, and he’s made a gigantic difference in the world, yet he can’t win this one. So, he’s “giving up the fight”. Does it mean he is guilty? Hell no. What I see is Lance Armstrong owning his awesome. It doesn’t matter if we agree or disagree. The bottom line is he’s awesome, not because you say so, but because he does.

I mention it only because it’s a great example of what it means to be that. To stand in that, even if the rest of the world doesn’t agree.

Owning your awesome takes something. It means stepping outside your comfort zone. It means letting yourself look bad, and flailing and being responsible for the flailing, it means allowing yourself to be human and awesome all at the same time.

Here’s another perfect example of a modern day fairy tale where it took a stern talking to and a talisman to get the damsel back into her own awesome A Deva Tale by Sandi Amorim.

How have you been hiding out from your own awesome? Care to out yourself here?

go be awesome

Rita xo

 

One Bold Action Step = Awesome

So much is happening so fast, that I haven’t had a moment to update you on what IS going on.  People are curious.  That’s what happens when something awesome happens.  So, although the site is still something I’m working on, and this isn’t really the place where I want to share “updates” like this, it seems appropriate to share with you what’s been happening.

Since announcing ownyourawesome I’ve had so many people, so excited! I sense it’s big.  My sense is I don’t even know how big yet.  And it’s coming, I can feel that.

Tomorrow, is the first of many photo shoots with my good friend and amazing photographer Jodi to get some great shots for the website.  It’s just a place to start.  She has some great ideas and I’ve got pink boxing gloves.  Let’s see what we can do with that.

Monday, I have a meeting with a friend who also happens to be a communications specialist, who has offered to write a bio for me since I’m going to need one.  She wants to be involved in any aspect of ownyourawesome that’s how excited she was when she read about it.

After sending the original announcement to a woman who gave me my very first opportunity to speak at an event, she replied within moments of reading it and invited me to speak about it at an event on August 31st as well as at a conference in March!  I’m already booked for March!  Who knows what could happen by then!

Last Friday, I “hired” my Executive Director for Camp Awesome.  She is a dear friend, a mum, a huge lover of children, a former teacher, and someone who has dreamed of running her own summer camp.  It’s amazing what comes out of having passionate conversations with people.  She is such a gift.  We have our very first focus group scheduled for September 22nd with adults who are amazing at what they do, in regards to working with children and awesome related things.  Originally, I thought Camp Awesome would have to wait, and then my new Executive Director appeared.

I may not entirely have the long term vision, or what this is going to look like once it’s fully evolved, and despite not knowing, I may feel fear, and on occasion, doubt, and where we’d often normally let the fear or the doubt lead the pack and stop, this matters to me more than the fear.  It just feels right.  So I’m going t with it. I am setting up meetings, creating plans, meeting with people, ordering merchandise, researching government grants, looking for property, all because of an epiphany and because it feels right.

Speaking of which, I ordered business cards (and one pen).

So the lesson in this thus far…one bold action step in front of the other, no matter what.

Chris Guillebeau, I believe you and the other awesomeness I discovered at WDS may have just altered the course of my life.

go be awesome

The Biological Advantage of Being Awestruck

There’s something to be said for allowing ourselves to be awestruck by something awesome each and every day.

Giving ourselves that experience, gives us the experience of awesome – which gets us closer to owning our own.

Please take a few minutes to watch this video by Jason Silva.  It’s extraordinary when you think about how it works…

go be awesome